If you are a victim of abuse, even if there's been no physical violence so far, the time may come when you are in serious danger. Planning ahead can help you and your children stay safe. Here are some things you can do:
- Teach your children how and under what circumstances to call 911.
- Identify a safe place for your children - a room with a lock or a neighbor's house where they can go for help.
- Arrange a signal to let the neighbors know to call the police.
- Keep emergency phone numbers in your purse or car.
- Notify your children's schools if there is any danger that the abuser might try to take the children from school.
- If you are injured, go to a hospital emergency room or doctor and report what has happened. Ask that they document your visit and take pictures.
- Be aware of the ways your activity on the internet can be tracked.
- Prepare an emergency kit that you can keep in a safe place and get to quickly - perhaps at the home of a friend or neighbor. Include extra clothing, money, checkbook, credit cards, important papers such as birth certificates and insurance cards, medications and prescriptions, extra keys, some toys or other items for the children.
- Keep the number for Blackburn Center's 24 hour hotline handy.
- Know about domestic violence shelters in your area.
- Go to a public place (e.g., mall, hospital, police station) if you have to flee.
- Don't tell the abuser what you're planning.